Have you ever watched a show where someone is in love with two people? The producers of the show have developed the story line so well that you sit on the edge of your seat. Tension builds inside you as you wonder who they will choose. From scene to scene, they are tossed back and forth in their emotions and just when they are about to choose, they begin to doubt, end up not deciding, then season two starts and the cycle begins all over again! Very disheartening! This back-n-forth cycle is common among Christians but God is both authoring and it's demise, not just in your life but throughout the nations of the earth. His children are about to go free!
Double-mindedness means: to be devoted to or love two people or two things. It’s like having both a spouse and a lover. When two people love each other so much that they desire to commit to each other in a deep, intimate, and exclusive way, marriage is the next step. When you come to Jesus, you are entering a covenant. He is faithful to you and like any good husband, He is jealous for you, His bride.
Many new couples start strong, but soon life begins to impact their relationship; bills and responsibilities can affect the couple’s interactions. Marital love is meant to deepen beyond the early infatuation stage; commitment starts to take a bigger role than feelings as the couple faces obstacles. But sometimes something else happens. One person in the marriage may start to miss the “zing of the fling” from when they first met and become vulnerable to other affections. Soon another person may catch their interest and through various chats, smiles, and pleasant words. A shared attraction may be birthed. When that mutual attraction becomes more concrete, one person might take the leap and invite the other to deepen the connection through coffees, then lunches, and perhaps dinners—and soon they will cross the line into something physical. Their hearts may begin to develop an affection that creates a greater and greater attachment. However, “physical adultery” is not where the adultery occurred. The adultery occurred when the heart was led astray by its own desires for the “zing of the fling.” James put it this way:
Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.— James 1:14, NLT
Does this person stop loving his or her spouse? Not usually. Often their love is still quite intense. But one spouse’s heart has become divided. This is where conflict, wavering doubts and instability take root within the adulterer.
A Picture of a Divided Heart
I remember when the Holy Spirit gave me a picture to understand the concept better. Imagine a man in the above scenario. He has a wife whom he loves standing on one side of him and his mistress on the other. Each woman is holding tightly to one of his arms. Each love is pulling him back and forth demanding his commitment and fidelity, making him literally unstable and unable to stand firm; he is at the mercy of both loves. He cannot decide which woman he wants more because he has given himself—his heart and loyalty—to each. He is invested in both.
This is a picture of double-mindedness. The insecurity of not being able to decide between your loyalties may motivate you to poll others around you. But polling others will do nothing to safeguard your mind from the constant reasoning and doubt of deciding. Your love for both loyalties will speak to your thoughts and pull you back and forth. The two loyalties will continually natter at you to choose. This can cause mental torment and obsessive thinking and exhaust you emotionally and physically. Making decisions based on your love for both will lead to confusion, and you will not feel at rest.
Think of it this way. The Bible teaches that out of the abundance of a person’s heart, the mouth speaks (Luke 6:45). When your heart is divided between two loyalties, it is like having two mouths and thus two heads speaking two arguing viewpoints. Imagine having two heads, one speaking the mind of Christ and the other nattering the desires of the world and of the enemy. To remain in a place of peace, there cannot be two nattering heads talking at the same time.
One head speaks truth loyally for God, saying that with God all things are possible. He can be trusted, and He will do what He says. This head whispers for us to simply trust and obey God. The other head springs from a loyalty to the world rooted in selfish desires that has an antichrist spirit in nature; this head does not believe the things of God. It woos us to question God’s Word and draw us away from Jesus and into our own desires. Jesus warned against a split in devotion, saying, “No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other” (Matt. 6:24). Jesus’ nature is giving, but the love of the world is selfish; because of this, they will always be at war within the person who is devoted to both. It’s like soldiers fighting a war who are loyal to both sides; victory on the battlefield is impossible. If you want to win, you must commit to one and one only. God is ready to help you fully to Him.
Grab a coffee, a pen and some paper and treat yourself to some stillness. Listen quietly and just write.
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Reflect with the Holy Spirit
- Lord Jesus, will You help me root out the sources of my double-mindedness?
- Lord, what mistresses do I have that pull me away from You?
- Where do I feel tossed about and unsettled?
- What area of my life do I experience the most doubt?
- Is doubt affecting my ability to commit? Am I stuck in a cycle of indecision or doubt?
- Ask the Lord to lead you from double-mindedness into your destiny.
Stay Tuned! Next Week we will be covering "The Love of the World and Cutting off the Second Head" It is a foundational teaching to prepare you to cut off the second head that leads you into double-mindedness. We aren't quite ready to pull out the swords just yet. But stick with me here and begin to pray daily that the Lord will prepare your heart and your mind for all of the next steps as you journey From Double-minded to Destiny! You are going to win!
This teaching devotional is part of a series based on Tyrelle Smith's book: From Double-Minded To Destiny. Each week we will publish more on how you can remove doubts and insecurities and fulfill God's plan for your life in a greater way.